Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Revisiting the Longest Day

My father was a paratrooper in the 11th Airborne Division in World War II. He told me, when he was still alive, that he was a radio man and among the first to jump into Japan when the Allies liberated the prison camps toward the end of the war. Most of the young men who fought in World War II had never been away from home and now they were scattered across Europe and the Pacific.

My dad, Alfred Friedman, jumping off a troop carrier in the South Pacific.
So it was a sense of awe and gratitude that I recently traveled back in time to the beaches of northern France and the D-Day sites of Pointe du Hoc, Omaha Beach, Utah Beach and Sainte Mere Eglise.

Remembering D-Day

On a rainy day, June 6, 1944, the skies suddenly cleared and the Allied Forces made the decision to go ahead with Operation Overlord, in which Canadian, British and American troops landed on the beaches of Normandy to push the German troops out of France and back into Germany. The D-Day invasion involved 5,000 ships carrying 150,000 men and 30,000 vehicles across the English Channel as well as 800 planes dropping six parachute regiments of over 13,000 paratroopers. An additional 300 planes dropped 13,000 bombs over coastal Normandy in advance of the invasion. Of the Allied troops that landed on the beaches that day, securing French coastal villages, 73,000 of them were Americans.

The men and women of the French Resistance played a very active and invaluable role gathering intelligence prior to D-Day, something that is seldom mentioned. They paid a high price for their bravery. Most were hunted down by the Gestapo, tortured and killed.

Pointe du Hoc: Can you imagine scaling these cliffs?
Our first visit was to Pointe du Hoc, a point of land where American Rangers landed, one hour before the invasion, to scale 100-foot cliffs with grappling hooks.  They did this while under fire from hand-held machine guns the enemy discharged from the safety of concrete bunkers. The Rangers' mission was to disable the coastal gun batteries— huge 155-millimeter guns that could send shells 12 miles out into the ocean or to adjacent beaches. Since the rest of the troops would be coming in by sea, those coastal gun batteries had to be taken out before the invasion force could land. Once the Rangers overpowered the Germans in the concrete gun emplacements, they then had to fight for two days to hold the location, losing more than 60 percent of their men. Afterwards, the remaining 40 percent regrouped and continued Northeast to a rally point one mile from the gun emplacements on Pointe du Hoc.

What the Germans saw from their concrete gun bunkers.
The French—remember this the next time someone says something negative about them—have not touched Pointe du Hoc since 1944. It is considered hallowed ground. So you can still see the concrete bunkers and the craters left by Allied bombers and ships shelling the coastline. Many men were slaughtered trying to make it up those cliffs. Oddly enough, it could have been worse.

Fortunately, Hitler suffered a bad headache the night before, supposedly because he had learned that Rome had fallen to the Allies. So he took a sleeping pill, went to bed and left orders not to disturb him. This was a strategic blow to the Master Race. No one was allowed to make decisions without the Führer’s blessing. The Germans had reinforcements that could have been sent into the invasion area to back up the German troops fighting on the cliffs. But by the time Hitler finished his beauty sleep—he is said to have slept until noon—it was too late. Even when his concerned officers finally informed him of what was going on, Hitler said it didn’t matter. He was more interested in invading London than fighting a defensive war in France. (Bad call.)

"...Comrade in Arms, known but to God."
Our next visit was to Utah and Omaha beaches. The troops were actually supposed to have landed west of there, which would have been strategically better. When they landed at about 6:30 in the morning, the soldiers jumping off the troop carriers encountered mines, barbed wire and heavy gun fire. More than 3,000 Americans died on those beaches from stepping on mines, gunshot wounds and in some cases drowning because they jumped off the troop carriers in water that was too deep, getting weighted down by their equipment. Many more would die in the weeks to come. Men stepped over the bodies of their comrades to run up the beaches and keep the assault going. By mid-afternoon, the Allied troops broke through the German defenses. By August 1944, all of Northern France was under Allied control.

Our next visit was to the American cemetery, a site overlooking Omaha beach. It is difficult to describe the emotions that wash over you as you gaze over the 9,387 gravestones perfectly aligned in row after row to the horizon. Most have names, but several hundred do not (see photo above) because some soldiers were never identified. Those buried came from every state in the union and represent just about every ethnic group you can imagine. What is striking is that most of the fallen range in age from teenagers to early twenties. They made the ultimate sacrifice and never had the opportunity to have a career or family like the rest of us. Just writing about it brings tears.

Finally, we visited the small town of Sainte Mere Eglise, where soldiers parachuted down into the French countryside in the dark in advance of the beach invasion. This was supposed to have been a surprise landing under cover of darkness. Unfortunately, a house caught on fire and a bucket brigade of villagers was working to extinguish it. The occupying Germans came out to survey what was going on. The night, lit with the rising flames, revealed a sky filled with descending parachutes. The Germans ordered the citizens back into their homes and began firing on the troops while they were in mid-air. Many were dead before they hit the ground.

Steele hung from this church steeple.
The parachute of one soldier, John Steele, caught on the town’s church steeple and he hung there, playing dead, in hopes of not being killed. The Germans eventually took him prisoner. Steele later escaped from the Germans and rejoined his division when U.S. troops attacked the village, capturing thirty Germans and killing another eleven.

The success of D-Day changed the course of history. Hitler was forced to fight a two-front war against the Russians in the east and the Americans, British, Canadians and French in the west. Within a year, Hitler committed suicide, and the war was over.

Reflections on War

Some wars are unavoidable, even noble; others are not.

It is appropriate to honor those who serve and protect our country. But prudent to be wary of the well-heeled, duplicitous legislators and contractors—many of whom have never served—who carelessly send today's soldiers into harm's way for hidden agendas.

We owe that important distinction to our troops and to our country.

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Dreggs Across the Atlantic

When my children were small, I used to get them to finish their meals by threatening to sing. It worked. My family, quite simply, has never been able to stomach my crooning. So when Steve and I recently took a transatlantic cruise on the Queen Mary 2, I decided—perhaps in an act of defiance—to take the songwriting course offered by award-winning musician/lyricist Chris Difford of Squeeze fame.

Clare, the most animated woman I've ever met.
Before the cruise, I wrote lyrics for about five songs. While I am not musical, I am a professional writer, so was hoping I could contribute lyrics to the songwriting effort. The first day of class a large crowd of people showed up in the ship's ballroom. There were several mentors, so we were divided up into small “bands.” My band, which came to be called Bitter Dreggs, consisted of Pam from Australia, Renee from England and Richard from New York. Our mentors were a husband/wife team, Clare and Matt Deighton from Wales. Fortunately for my ego, all of my band mates were unqualified amateurs like me. Richard, a former corporate lawyer, played guitar. Pam, who had studied ethnic music, played keyboards. Retired school teacher, Renee, and I—for the love of God—sang.

Our mentors were professional musicians. Clare had been trained in opera but had somehow strayed off to become a rock/folk vocalist. A petite blond, she had a tremendously deep and powerful voice. Her energy level rivaled the internal combustion of the sun. She could always be counted on for a supportive wink, a naughty smile and a conspiratorial hug. Her husband, Matt, has played guitar in many bands including Oasis (standing in for Noel Gallagher) and composes music. He was the God of Calm, gently smiling, his face framed with curly black hair streaked with gray. Now and then he flashed an impish smile as if just he and you were sharing a private joke.

Matt, having a philosophical moment with his guitar.
On our first day, we introduced ourselves, then got down to brainstorming lyrics for the song, There Goes the Serenity of the Day. I had suggested the title in honor of Albert Camus and his book, The Stranger, which affirmed my nerdiness. (See lyrics below.) It was an existentialist blues song about a drunken reprobate and the woman who gleefully left him. Other groups had chosen more uplifting and less literary subjects, many of which seemed like shameless attempts to sell the QM2 corporate advertising department a new theme song. (Not a bad idea.) My favorite was a song about Dubai. You had to be there to appreciate the humor.

After we came up with lyrics, Matt composed the accompanying music and we began practicing between bridge matches and other activities. Our mentors were lenient as they were acutely aware that, as vacationers, we had the focus of truant teenagers with attention deficit disorder. After two days of sporadic practice, we gathered in a small room in the underbelly of the ship for a recording session. We sang and played like a gang of unruly sots, then a guitar solo and harmony were overdubbed on the track. Our band was told that the results, following some tidying up, would be emailed to us after the cruise.

Next, we practiced primitive choreography for the benefit of whichever misguided passengers might wander in to our recital in the main Royal Court Theatre. This consisted of swaying in time with each other, throwing down hats on the correct verse and pointing accusingly at Richard, who good-naturedly played the part of the reprobate in the song.

Bitter Dreggs, oy! (l to r): Richard, me, Clare, Pam and Renee.
Finally, showtime came and we were paraded into a special section of the theatre to sit and await our turns on stage. It reminded me of grade school, when students sat in the auditorium by class and took turns filing up to the stage to participate in a Christmas pageant.

I asked Clare if we could have a few guitars to smash at the end of our bit.  After all, I reasoned, shouldn't a part of the rock experience include indulging in demanding and deviant behavior? She wandered off cheerfully mumbling about Cunard adding it to our bills.

Our band was told we would go on first, which suited us fine. In fact, we ended up being second to last, which also suited us fine. When our turn finally came, we trundled up the steps to the stage, received a brief and encouraging introduction from Mr. Difford, then got on with it. I noticed my husband was about fourth row center in the audience with his camera going. This was about as close a brush with showbiz that we would ever have, so might as well milk it for all it was worth.

The Bitter Dreggs wailed its tune of woe to the audience, who was appreciative in the same way Mom had been during the Christmas pageant. Fortunately, my microphone was not working, so I was free to belt out the lyrics with impunity. I had such a good time that I forgot to throw down my hat at the appointed moment, but no one noticed.

Chris Difford puts the move on me--hey, hey, and that's okay.
My mentors surprised me by taking the time to read my pre-written song lyrics. They showed them to Chris Difford, who offered encouragement, and to another mentor, singer/songwriter Geoff Martyn, from Scotland. Geoff composed music for one song, about my father, and recorded it for me. Matt and Clare said they intended to record one of my other songs, Invisible, when they got back to their farm/studio in Wales.

Overall, the songwriting course was the unexpected highlight of the cruise for many passengers. We made friends with people from all over the globe, shared more than a few good laughs and wallowed in some delusional fun for a week.

On a personal level, perhaps most satisfying was the opportunity to sing publicly sans the usual familial scorn—and without the artistic pressure of trying to persuade my now-grown children to finish their vegetables.

There Goes the Serenity of the Day
By the Bitter Dreggs

I wake up in the morning with a beer can in my hand;
The sun is cruelly searing on my eyeballs like a brand.
My bed turns out again to be the bonnet of a car.
My woman and my job gone, I’m not going very far.
My brew is getting flatter, I’m looking for a high.
She left me for a lawyer with a collar and a tie.
Now I’m sliding in the gutter and falling out of sight
My life is getting darker but I always liked the night.

There goes the serenity of the day, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.

I always knew my woman wouldn’t stay 'round very long
She ran off with my lawyer and they both did me wrong
He dropped my case, she left me, they even took the dog
I’ve lost my brilliant future in a drunken, beer-hazed fog.

There goes the serenity of the day, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.
There goes the serenity of the day, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.

And she said:

It’s true I found a lawyer in a collar and a tie
I’d left him for his drinking, his cheating and his lies
I’m living in suburbia; he’s living in denial
Now they’ve reclaimed his auto and I’ve reclaimed my smile

I’ve got the serenity of the day, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.
I’ve got the serenity of the day, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.
I’ve got the serenity of the day, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.
I’ve got the serenity of the day, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.
I’ve got the serenity of the day…and I’m okayyyyyyy!




Monday, September 5, 2011

Let Them Eat Cake

We recently went to a wedding in New York City. On a hot, early September day, more than 50 people crowded into a humid apartment in lower Manhattan to witness the vows of two people who define what relationships should be. (Unlike the pampered suburbs, many apartments in the city do not have air conditioning. So only the strong survive.)

The wedding favor: a long-stemmed glass and Sanskit passage.
"Love is no assignment for cowards."—Ovid

Since they work in show business, the ceremony included actors reciting poems and passages, a composer performing songs he wrote just for them and the couple, themselves, singing a duet. So this wasn’t just a wedding, it was a free and wildly entertaining show.

Steve and I are admittedly sentimental. Whenever we go to weddings, we find ourselves holding hands, smiling at each other and fighting back the tears. Weddings showcase love and its ideals at their romantic best. Forget the fact that one out of two marriages fail. This one won’t. Sometimes you just know that, and that’s what made this day so inspiring.

"My heart is ever at your service."—William Shakespeare

People flew in from all over the country for the affair—from Los Angeles, the Carolinas and other far-flung places. We happily took an hour’s train ride in from Jersey and braved the irregular holiday subway schedules to find our way to this special moment in time. The apartment was filled with stylishly dressed and very charming guests, all bubbling with joy.

Top, coconut; middle orange; bottom, lemon.
In a departure from the usual nuptial fare, all the hors d'oeuvres and a beautiful two-tiered wedding cake (see picture) were prepared by the groom, Eric—an incredibly talented and artistic man.

But what made this gathering so truly remarkable was the fact that it happened at all. These endearing people—one from South Carolina, the other from Rhode Island—first made eye contact with each other across a crowded bar in New York City, and it was love at first sight. There's a 20-year difference in their ages, but that proved no obstacle. They have lived together for 15 years and have wanted to affirm that love through marriage. The final barrier to that goal fell away this past June, when New York Governor Andrew Cuomo raised a pen to sign ground-breaking, same-sex marriage legislation into law. It went into effect 30 days later, meaning that same-sex couples could begin marrying in New York by late July. In August, our friends decided to get married and three weeks later, marriage certificate in hand, they tied the knot.

"Was it love at first sight? It wasn't then—but it sure is now."—Ann Meara, of her 30-plus-year marriage

So it is with a sense of exquisite delight that I wish Russ and Eric all the happiness and rich complexities that marriage may bring—and many joyful anniversaries to come as spiritually and legally blessed soul-mates. 

Friday, September 2, 2011

The Brighter Side of Darkness

A downed trellis was our only casualty.
"Darkness is to space what silence is to soundthe interval."—Marshall McLuhan

Recently, New Jersey was assaulted by the howling winds and torrential rains of Hurricane Irene. It traveled up the Garden State Parkway, jumping tolls along the way. A week later, many areas of the state are still flooded. Most of the wonderful mom-and-pop stores in nearby Denville ended up in the middle of a raging river and are now out of business—permanently altering the psyche of the town.

Steve and I were lucky that the worst thing that happened to us was that our metal trellis was ripped out of its concrete foundation and thrown down on its side—and we lost our electricity for a day.

Those of us in developed countries rarely have an interruption in our energy supply, so when it happens, it can be a startling reminder of just how dependent we are on things beyond our control. Electricity is necessary for our grooming (hot water), sustenance (refrigerator, stove) and entertainment (television, computer games, Internet).

"I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness because it shows me the stars."—Og Mandino

When the lights went out, we donned flashlights, lit candles, and then realized that we had no idea what to do with ourselves. Our activities were reduced to reading books by battery-powered booklights or brushing up on conversation. Undoubtedly, there will be a crop of "hurricane babies" next June. At first, the blackout seemed terribly inconvenient and boring. Eventually, I found it relaxing (less mental clutter) and reminiscent of when I was young and there was no cable, computers or Internet.

As children, we sought entertainment by running out into the neighborhood and playing with whomever was around that day. The rule was we had to be home by dark. Our parents chatted with neighbors as they did yard work. Everyone on the block knew everyone else. There was a sense of community and connection.

Denville: Flood insurance doesn't cover hurricane damage. [NJ.Com]
I remember having a very relaxing childhood. I went to school, played with friends, ate dinner with my family, did an hour of homework (only after fourth grade), watched television if there was anything interesting on the seven television stations our antenna received (Channels, 2,4,5,7,9,11 and 13) and went to bed. I also read a lot of books, drew pictures and listened to music on the radio. The technology in our home consisted of one black-and-white television, a radio and a rotary telephone in the livingroom—all conversations were public.

"Light thinks it travels faster than anything but it is wrong. No matter how fast light travels, it finds the darkness has always got there first, and is waiting for it."—Terry Pratchett

We were the Baby Boomers—the children of returning World War II soldiers. That upwardly mobile generation that protested against wars and social injustice instead of spending hours playing World of Warcraft or chatting on Facebook.

It's a Tilt-a-Whirl World.
My children do not seem very relaxed. They are in their twenties and always seem stressed out and exhausted. The economy is in a slump and the world is pretty grim—financially, politically and environmentally. We live in a blaring, fast-paced, electronic Tilt-a-Whirl. Perhaps it is a back-handed gift to have our power suddenly turned off, our incessant electronics silenced. Just for a short while, if we are prepared to accept it, the experience presents us with a soothing swathe of darkness.

Thursday, August 25, 2011

Re-Enacting the Last Days of Rome

"There exists in human nature a strong propensity to depreciate the advantages, and to magnify the evils, of the present times."—Chapter 31, Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire, Edward Gibbon

One of my family members has worked for a small, independent bookstore for several years. The owner recently decided she wanted to sell, then discovered that because she has full-time employees with benefits, her profit margin was not as good as it might be. If her full-timers were not there, tamping down her profits, she could sell the store for a larger sum. The solution? Harass the full-time employees by screaming at them and telling them that everything they do is crap so they will leave. One of the three full-time employees is so distraught she is counting her days. The other two, despite feeling stressed, intend to stay until they are fired so they will qualify for unemployment and COBRA. How could someone behave like this? Easy. Just look at our media role models—from Congress to reality television. Abuse has gone mainstream. 
 
The world can be a nasty place. People, in their self-absorbed pursuit of money and/or power, often feel justified in brutalizing anyone who gets in their way. Fortunately, there are still people who believe this is wrong. Two of them are men who stand at the opposite poles of ideology. In 2009, Mark DeMoss, a Republican and prominent evangelical Christian who runs a public relations firm in Atlanta, joined forces with a friend, Lanny J. Davis, a Jewish Democrat and lobbyist who worked for Bill Clinton, to establish the Civility Project. They formed their initiative in response to what they viewed as an increasingly vicious tone in American politics.

"I am concerned about the hate and animosity being aimed at men and women with whom we may disagree on one issue or another and have decided to do something about it."—Mark DeMoss

Those of you who are my age will remember civility—the ability to calmly discuss issues with people of opposing viewpoints without name calling or disrespect. We learned about it in our civics classes where we were taught an important principle of democracy—intellectual, fact-based debate.
The Civility Project founders created a pledge with the goal of having every member of Congress and every state governor sign it. Here’s their “Civility Pledge”:

I will be civil in my public discourse and behavior.
I will be respectful of others whether or not I agree with them.
I will stand against incivility when I see it.

Sounds like something we might have learned in kindergarten. Sadly, our legislators didn’t. Out 585 letters sent asking every sitting governor and member of Congress to sign the pledge, only three did so. They were Senator Joseph I. Lieberman, independent of Connecticut; Representative Frank Wolfe, Republican of Virginia; and Representative Sue Myrick, Republican of North Carolina. That’s right, my liberal friends, the Repubicans took the feeble lead on this one. Let us hang our heads in shame.
DeMoss folded the project after spending two years and about $30,000 in expenses on the endeavor.


My heroes, Mark DeMoss (left) and Lanny Davis. Courtesy of CivilityProject.org.

In a letter written on January 3, 2011, to the three admirable legislators who signed the pledge, DeMoss said, “I must admit to scratching my head as to why only three members of Congress, and no governors, would agree to what I believe is a rather low bar.”

DeMoss, a former aide to Moral Majority founder Rev. Jerry Falwell and an unpaid adviser to Republican Gov. Mitt Romney in the 2008 presidential campaign, said that he was particularly surprised by the hostility to the civility pledge from conservatives.

"Incivility is the extreme of pride; it is built on the contempt of mankind."—Johann Georg Von Zimmerman, Swiss physician and philosopher (1728 - 1795)

“The worst e-mails I received about the civility project were from conservatives with just unbelievable language about communists, and some words I wouldn’t use in this phone call,” he said to an interviewer from The New York Times.  “This political divide has become so sharp that everything is black and white, and too many conservatives can see no redeeming value in any liberal or Democrat. That would probably be true about some liberals going the other direction, but I didn’t hear from them.”

He went on to say, “Whether or not there’s violence, whether or not incivility today is worse than it’s been in history, it’s all immaterial. It’s worse than it ought to be.” Well said. Thank you, Mr. DeMoss.

What it comes down to is this: When a society degenerates into reducing human beings to things to be destroyed or removed, we all lose a little bit of our humanity. And make no mistake. Once that happens, no one is safe.

Sunday, August 14, 2011

The Amityville Rental

If you've ever watched the Amityville Horror (featured in a book and two movies), you know the familiar story of the Lutz family, who finds this beautiful Dutch colonial house on Long Island for a great price, only to discover something evil lurks within. Such is real estate. You just never know what you’re going to get until you move in.

“There's nothing like it on the market. Not at this price.”—Mrs. Townsend, Amityville Horror, 1979

My younger daughter, Chelsea, recently signed a lease on a beautiful apartment in the attic of someone’s home in Dover. It was remodeled with a brand new kitchen and lovely tiled bathroom. The floors were hardwood and it is, quite frankly, a very attractive apartment. The rent was reasonable, considering how crazy rents in Northern New Jersey can be. And she is basically happy there.

Dover has a train station. [
Before she rented it, the landlord’s father took us on a tour of the place. The family she rents from is quite nice, the typical first-generation-American, working-class family that occupies these parts. I was pleased with the apartment and the people who lived in the main house. One thing that struck me as odd, but only in passing, was a clause in the lease. It read that if Chelsea took legal action against the landlord, she would be liable for his legal costs. Maybe that is standard in leases these days, but I had never seen it before.

I think the first inkling that there might be organ music playing in a minor key, was when she called me up in a panic at 12:30 one night to say that there was running and scratching noises in the ceiling. I tried to calm her down. It was probably mice or squirrels. That's fairly common in suburbia. Since the landlord lived beneath her, surely he would have some stake in taking care of the problem.

“Your house frightens me, Mrs. Lutz.”—Father Callaway, Amityville Horror, 2005

A day or two later, the next phone call I got, she found out that the thermostat didn’t work. That meant if she turned on the air conditioning, it would not stop at a particular temperature. Instead it would keep chugging out cold air until it was frigid enough to store a side of beef. The problem with this is that she has to pay for her own electric. If the thermostat never turns off, then it should be heart-stopping to see her first electric bill.

Shortly thereafter, she found out that there was not enough hot water to take a shower. Normally, a tenant would have her own hot water tank, so this seemed a bit strange. Finally, this past week, when she decided to do some baking, she found out that the oven doesn’t work. The burners heat up, but the oven does not. Mind you, she just moved in a few weeks ago, so there are 11 more months on her lease to discover whatever other horrors might await in her new residence.

The landlord has been to her apartment to look into the pests in the attic and the thermostat, but so far nothing has been fixed. Fortunately, Chelsea is patient and philosophical. She understands the landlord has a full-time job and this is something he does on the side. She understands that what is wrong with the apartment may not be an easy fix. She also knows, due to the clause in the lease, she cannot afford any legal action should these problems persist.

“[sobs] Why is it all going wrong? We have to do something.”—Kathy Lutz, Amityville Horror, 1979

Looking on the bright side: Unlike the residence of horror fame, no one has been murdered in her apartment, no ghosts are terrorizing her and the walls do not bleed. There is also no demonic pig creature named Jodie with red glowing eyes. Hopefully, the landlord will be as honest as he appears and will take care of the problems in the next few weeks. If not, she will endure the next year unwashed, braving extreme temperatures, bereft of oven, with the unwanted companionship of several unseen, noisy wall pets.

Sunday, August 7, 2011

Following the Sherman Tank Generation

“The tragedy of old age is not that one is old, but that one is young.”
Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

Lately, I’ve noticed that I’m getting older. Not mentally, mind you. I'm still the same immature, Jersey girl I’ve always been. No. Mother Nature is tapping my shoulder on the physical plane.

I trimmed the hedges last week and my thumb is still swollen. I tripped on a phone cord, landed on my knee and it still hurts several weeks later. My ankles are permanently swollen; I have no idea why. When I was younger, any damage I did to myself cleared up in a day or two. Now it lingers and sometimes takes up permanent residence.

How did this happen? 

My mother is 29 years older than me and is built like a Sherman Tank. Nothing can stop her and she feels just fine. My generation seems a bit wimpier than hers. I had lunch with some old high school chums recently and the focus of much of our conversation revolved around our physical maladies and how we were coping with them. We sounded like my late grandmother did when she was in her eighties.

“There's one advantage to being 102. There's no peer pressure.” —Dennis Wolfberg

This is not just my imagination. According to a study by the University of California (UC), which oddly enough was carried in the UK Daily Mail, today's Baby Boomers are the first modern generation to be less healthy than their immediate predecessors. Despite improvements in medicine and standards of living, we are more likely to be blighted by health problems, from aching knees and hips to diabetes, asthma and strokes.

Technology: friend or foe?
This may be due to fast food, lack of exercise and a growing reliance on computers and other technology. It does not bode well that the U.S has the fattest population in the developed world. Apparently, two-thirds of Americans are overweight, and those extra pounds make joints wear out more quickly, boost cholesterol and blood pressure, and raise the risk of a host of other debilitating health problems. Even if they aren't overweight, Baby Boomers tend to be less physically active than their parents and grandparents. Their daily routines are often dominated by desk jobs and commuting, both of which involve a lot of sitting.

The UC study, published in the American Journal of Public Health, compared the health of thousands of men and women in their 60s, 70s and 80s with data on different people of the same age collected ten years earlier, and here’s what it found:
  • One in five people in their 60s need help with basic day-to-day activities—up more than 50 percent from a decade earlier
  • People over 60 years of age are 70 percent more likely to have difficulty walking from room to room, getting in and out of bed, and eating or dressing than the same age group 10 years ago 
  • Finally, the over-60 group was 50 percent more likely to have trouble walking a quarter of a mile or climbing ten steps without a rest. Stooping, crouching, kneeling and getting up from a chair proved 40 percent more troublesome (that's right, folks, no more Russian kick dancing for us!)
“The older I grow, the more I distrust the familiar doctrine that age brings wisdom.”—H.L. Mencken

The UC study draws some dark conclusions:
  • The growing number of individuals aged 60 and older will place ever-growing demands on the health care system
  • Increased levels of disability, particularly among the youngest of older adults, may also negatively affect economic productivity (ready those mobile scooters; MY generation can't afford to retire)
  • Younger people could also lose out if they have to compete with older people for scarce resources in an overburdened health care system (move over, kids, those are OUR respirators)
My mother: 85 years young and going strong.
Cary Cooper, professor of health psychology at Lancaster University in the UK, believes that our ever-growing reliance on technology is harming our health. (Spoil-sport!) He warns that the impact will be even greater in years to come, with the retirees of the future having spent many more years sitting in front of a computer than those of today. His advice is simple: Be active.

Ironically, some "advances" in health care could be contributing to this backward trend.

“We have been lulled into a false sense of security that pharmaceuticals are the answer to our health problems,” says Dr. Ian Campbell, a general practitioner and medical director of the charity, Weight Concern. “So we get statistics saying that the number of deaths from heart disease is falling but that is because we are keeping people alive with drugs. That is admirable but it would be far better if we could cut the amount of heart disease in the first place.” Keep people healthy rather than drugging them up over a prolonged period of time to cope with chronic symptoms? Lousy business model.

So let's get this straight. We are living longer, but we are doing so based, not on good health, but on life-extending pharmaceuticals. Rather than maintaining good health through lifestyle, we eat bad food and spurn exercise with the assumption that all problems can be solved by popping a pill. We may not feel all that great, but we are being kept alive, which improves the mortality statistics and gives us a false sense of progress.

While science may have provided us with longevity, past generations had a better quality of life. Why? Simple. They ate unprocessed foods (sans genetically modified organisms) and got up off their duffs and did something.